“HIV doesn’t kill people, but stigma does” – based on a true story

Yes, that’s right. We being in the 21st centenary have still not been able to tackle the most integral part of HIV and AIDS and mind you that this is some thing people them selves need to sort out for the betterment of the man kind. Most importantly if we don’t do this today this will never happen and thus help us to eliminate stigma completely from this earth. Below is a real story that happened in Sri Lanka in year 2000, which even caught the attention of lot of non governmental, governmental and media organizations during that time.


princeyA stay at home wife who had never held a job, Princey had no idea what HIV or AIDS was. Her husband a hotel worker had gone abroad to work in Germany in 1994. It was only after his return in 2000 that he fell seriously sick and a hospital test revealed he had AIDS.


Princey’s husband contracted HIV through unprotected sex in Germany where he was working for six years. Princey being a house wife and having two children, who were schooling, was a faithful wife to his husband. After the husbands return, he suddenly felt sick and was admitted to the hospital, the doctors were desperate and could not figure out what was wrong with him and at that moment the only test, which was left was the HIV blood test. The doctors analyzed his blood of course after their consent.


Princey and her two kids were stunned suddenly after the day the blood samples were taken for the HIV test. It was a completely different feeling and treatment. Princey was called to the doctor’s office to be briefed on the report. When she went there it was strange for her as she knew nothing about the report and she was being insulted, harassed by the minor staff of the hospital and finally the doctor came in and was told that her husband was affected by AIDS.


“When attention focused on my husband, he did not have any privacy or confidential rights. There was a breach of confidentiality by the minor employees of the hospital when we went to seek health care. Quite unnecessarily we had to face attacks and innumerable difficulties. This was hard and I suffered enough overcoming these hurdles. I have had to face every difficulty that life has to offer. So there is nothing new that can happen to me now. I have overcome these barriers and come a long way in life with patience and will power. I am happy about this. In future if there is anything I can do, I hope to do it well” said Princey answering a question of what the trouble she was facing after her husband was diagnosed as an AIDS patient.



Read the complete article here

Nooranie is the General Secretary of Beyond Borders and blogs at “the ultimate change” The views expressed here are that of the author, not of Beyond Borders.


Posted on 12/05/2008, in HIV/AIDS, Opinions, Sri Lanka and tagged , , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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